Romans 11:33-36

Oh, the depth of the riches and wisdom and knowledge of God! How unsearchable are his judgments and how inscrutable his ways! “For who has known the mind of the Lord, or who has been his counselor? Or who has given a gift to him that he might be repaid?” For from him and through him and to him are all things. To him be glory forever. Amen.
Showing posts with label sex. Show all posts
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Friday, April 17, 2009

Peep Show Marketing


The circus sideshow has now become a peep-show. For several years, we have watched a marketing-based approach to ministry become the norm in American evangelicalism. The problem with using marketing to build churches (other than biblical concerns) is that people are increasingly desensitized to secular marketing approaches.

In an oversaturated media environment, it is virtually impossible to garner attention. For example, how does one billboard stand out amongst the dozens along a typical commute? Marketers have tried pithy catchphrases and colorful pictures. Beautiful beaches and mountains have been used. There have even been attempts at disseminating serious information. But nothing grabs attention like sex. Suggestive and even lewd pictures are joined by crassly suggestive phrases and double-entendre. The fact that sex sells has become axiomatic in the world of sales and marketing.

Sadly, the axiom is being adopted by many churches. Churches have moved from the carnival barker marketing of the distant past to the production / event marketing of the recent past. Churches are now realizing that isn’t enough. Attention craving, marketing driven ministries are finding it difficult to get noticed in the current market. So they are increasingly turning to what works. They are increasingly selling themselves with sex.

Ed Young, Jr. made national headlines with his “Seven Day Challenge”. Last year, he challenged the married couples in his congregation to commit to seven straight days of sex. To illustrate, he made the challenge while sharing the platform at Fellowship Church with a huge bed. As offensive and unbiblical as the message was, what generated national attention was how it was marketed. Young made several national TV appearances, including CNN. Billboards were rented that promoted the “sermon”. Even more disturbing is the number of copycats it has generated. John MacArthur has said, “Sermons about sex have suddenly become a bigger fad in the evangelical world than the prayer of Jabez ever was.”

One of the latest examples is Daystar Church in Good Hope, AL. I’ve been to Good Hope—other than the huge Daystar campus, there’s not much there. Most of the people who attend Daystar commute from Birmingham. But last month, the pastor Jerry Lawson started a sermon series titled, “Great Sex: God’s Way.” Needless to say, it wasn’t a straightforward exposition of Ephesians 5. While it doesn’t appear that Lawson’s messages were as provocative or lurid as Mark Driscoll’s infamous Song of Solomon series, the purpose was the same. With all the national media attention and marketing surrounding the series (including billboards along I-65 and a CNN appearance), there is no explanation other than a desire to attract an audience. The axiom once again holds true—sex sells.

But is that what we are called to do? Are we, as the church, called to market the Gospel? Is the Gospel a product that we are called to peddle? The answer becomes clear when we understand what the Gospel is. The Gospel is offensive. It is foolishness to those who are perishing (1 Corinthians 1:18). If you have ever endured the stench of decomposing flesh, you understand Paul’s words in 2 Corinthians 2:15-16. To the lost and dying world we are called to reach, the Gospel is a repulsive stench. We can dress up the corpse and perfume it all we want to. But if it is still the Gospel, it is still offensive to lost people. We are not called to peddle the Gospel. We are called to proclaim it—accurately, lovingly, thoroughly, boldly and continually.

Is there a place for preaching and teaching on sex in the church? Yes—in a sensitive, tactful, respectful and reverent manner. Sex within the confines of marriage is a glorious gift from God. It is impossible to systematically preach through the Bible without touching on the subject—especially as a picture of Christ’s intimate love for the church. Sex was given as a picture of the Gospel—not as sophomoric titillation designed for a marketing ploy. When used in that way, it sullies the Gospel and cheapens the gift of sex.

Sex might sell, but it does not save.

2 Corinthians 2:17

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Tuesday, January 13, 2009

A New Twist On the Oldest Profession


The god of our age is on display on eBay. Actually, I don’t know where the auction is being conducted, but wherever it is, it’s generating a lot of interest. As the media constantly bombards us with reports of severe economic hardships, this auction is bucking the trend by drawing bids in excess of $3.7 million. That’s a lot of money in good economic times, much less the supposed “crisis” times we’re living in.

What is the object being auctioned? The medically certified virginity of a 22-year old California girl named Natalie Dylan. Natalie isn’t your stereotypical prostitute. She has an undergraduate degree in Women’s Studies (whatever that is) and is pursuing a masters degree in—get this—Family and Marriage Therapy. She got the sex-auction idea from her big sister, Avia. Being a good role model, 23 year-old Avia paid for her degree by working as a prostitute for three weeks. Instead of “working” for three weeks, Natalie is only offering a one-night stand.

Frankly, this astounds me on so many levels, I am having trouble articulating my thoughts. But I really shouldn’t be so astounded, because the god of this age has been manifesting itself in similar ways for years. In his book, Desire and Deceit: The Real Cost of the New Sexual Tolerance, Dr. Albert Mohler quotes historian Christopher Dawson from the 1930s:

Western civilization at the present day is passing through a crisis which is essentially different from anything that has previously been experienced. Other societies in the past have changed their social institutions or their religious beliefs under the influence of external forces or the slow development of internal growth. But none, like our own, has ever consciously faced the prospect of a fundamental alteration of the beliefs and institutions on which the whole fabric of social life rests.
What Dr. Dawson presciently wrote in the 1930s has come to fruition before our eyes. The fact that Ms. Dylan is selling her virginity is shocking, but prostitution has been a fact of life for all of recorded history. What seems unprecedented is the nearly unanimous gleeful support she is receiving. Those who oppose her actions are considered crazy, puritanically prudish fundamentalists. The reaction to Ms. Dylan’s auction is a bellwether of the moral putridity which is rapidly oozing to the surface in this generation. Dr. Mohler puts it well:

The very habits of human life—the customs and traditions on which civilization is grounded—are now being reversed, marginalized, and discarded in an effort to eliminate all norms by normalizing the abnormal. For those whose agenda is to undermine Judeo-Christian morality and to disconnect Western civilization from biblical norms, there is no better strategy than to subvert marriage, family, and sexuality, unleashing on society an age and culture of polymorphous perversity [Sigmund Freud’s coined terminology for a completely unrestrained, infantile stage of pure animal sexuality].
Ephesians 4:19-20

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Thursday, December 4, 2008

The Seven Day Challenge

As a pastor, there are several challenges I can think to issue to our church. As a matter of fact, I have issued a few. Each year I issue a challenge for the congregation to read the Bible through in a year. Last year I challenged us to memorize one key passage each week. We (notice I said "we") didn't do too well on that one so we'll try again this year.

Recently, I heard about a pastoral challenge that I must confess I've never considered. Pastor Ed Young, Jr. of Fellowship Church has gotten a lot of attention with the challenge he issued his church a couple of weeks ago. As he stood before his 20,000 member congregation, Pastor Ed challenged the married couples in the church to commit to seven days of sex. And all God's children said....

Seriously....

Is this what it has come down to? Is this what the act of preaching has been reduced to?

Don't get me wrong—I’m not a poor caricature of a raging puritanical fundamentalist. The Bible is clear in its teaching that the marriage bed is to be pure and undefiled and is a gloriously intimate gift from God. (If you don't believe me, read the Song of Solomon by candlelight to your wife—now THAT'S a gift!)

My concern is not with God’s gift of the marital act. My concern is with God’s gift of the preaching act. How does this seven day challenge speak to hearts of the people’s sin? How does it speak to them of a righteous and holy God? How does it speak to them of their need for, and God's provision of, a Savior? Frankly, after seeing more Cialis and Viagra commercials than any human being should have to endure, I don’t think our society suffers from a lack of emphasis on sex. The problem with our marriages is not a lack of sex. The problem with our marriages is a lack of grace. We don’t understand the glorious Gospel of Jesus Christ and how He has designed marriage to portray that Gospel. If anything, that should be the challenge issued from the pulpit.

So here it is—Men, for the next seven days, I challenge us to love our wives as Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5:25-29). That means you need to be willing to empty yourself of everything you are for her. No pride, no position, no ego. In short, no self. To the point that even if she were to take advantage of you and abuse you and berate you—you will be silent as a lamb led to the slaughter. For the next seven days I challenge you to show your wife your love for her by being willing to sacrifice everything you have and everything you are for her—even to the point you will be willing to die for her (Philippians 2:5-8).

Men, if I'm going to issue a challenge to us, I must offer one to our wives as well. So, ladies, for the next seven days I challenge you to graciously submit to the headship of your husband (Ephesians 5:22-24). Erase from your mind all of the mitigating and self-exalting definitions of submission you've heard in the past. I’m talking real, unvarnished submission. The kind of submission that willingly and joyfully places your wants, needs and desires in his hands. The kind of submission that sees his plans as your plans and faithfully works to support and execute them—no matter the personal cost, no matter the personal sacrifice. All for the joy that is set before you (Hebrews 12:2).

That is the challenge I’m issuing. And if we as married couples respond to that challenge, we won’t have to worry about being challenged to physically enjoy our spouses. Physical intimacy will flow as passionately as it did between the Beloved and the Shulammite in the Song of Solomon.

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